Grace Durbin recently penned a response to one of my posts. Having engaged her with intellectual criticisms, I am charged with the crime of “verbal assault” over at her blog. What could such a thing mean I wonder? I did not cuss her, I didn’t threaten her, and I didn’t insult her personally. So, in what sense did I proceed with “verbal assault”? What could such a thing mean. She condemns me for “judging” her and others. The remainder of her post is a Christian admonishing of sorts, reminding me that Jesus would never do such a thing right?
I wish she had made counter-arguments to my posts, but instead her retort is one large example of fallacious writing. Her entire post is an ad hominem. Instead of dealing with my argument, she attacks my character. Ironically, she tries desperately to show this is what I am doing to her. She even goes as far as saying:
I imagine she [Mary Magdalene] felt so honored because she was a whore. (As you’ve attempted and failed to make me to be in your introduction.)
But here’s what I said about her in my introduction:
Grace Durbin, a fellow blogger on WordPress and writer for Elitedaily, published a piece back in November on the state of violence in our country. The first half of her post records her pregnancy, her partner abandoning her, then the birth of her now 1-year-old daughter, followed by the epiphany of living in a “culture of violence”. What would she do if something tragic happened to her? Who would care for her young daughter? As she witnesses, reads, and hears about young girls being sexually assaulted, young men, like Mike Brown, who “hit the ground in a storm of unmerited violence” and boys like Tamir Rice, she can only conclude that her daughter’s life is imminently threatened by this “culture of violence”.
I used the information she gave about her self as a springboard to examine her notion of a “culture of violence”. Here’s what she said about her self:
Nine days before my daughter’s birth, my partner left and never returned. I could have succumbed to the pain and anger I felt, but I didn’t. I had my first child, moved homes, became a college student for the first time and discovered the meaning of being called “Mom.” That’s when I realized my voice could reach further than I had imagined — it must. My daughter is 1-year-old, and every day, I grow more fearful and worried about what her future might hold. If something happened to me today, who would stand up for my daughter tomorrow? Who would protect my child for me?
I don’t understand how this amounts to me characterizing her as a whore? There is simply no evidence for this – and it is completely uncalled for on her part. Those who follow her also toil under the same delusions, believing that I am out to attack her and her daughter (both whom I mentioned very briefly in my post).
I don’t understand the charge of “verbal assault”. It quite literally makes no sense whatsoever. Since I didn’t insult, cuss, or threaten her – and since her implication that I am characterizing her as a whore is ridiculous – there is only one thing left that can be thought of as so-called verbal assault: my criticism of her thoughts. But are a person and their thoughts the same thing, such that if one is criticized necessarily the other is as well? This only supports the points I’ve been making about the pluralism and egalitarianism in our society. It has driven people to the assumption that any thought, belief, or decision cannot be held to a standard outside of the self that holds them; it is theirs and theirs alone. It is a sad state of affairs that we have reached when the critique of another persons thoughts is equal to “verbal assault”. But only in a world this lost could someone actually believe this…
As far as me not living up to the good ole’ WWJD doctrine, I think her understanding of Jesus is a bit over-simplified. This is the same Jesus that judged the Sadducees and Pharisees. He said, “You serpents, you brood of vipers, how are you to escape being sentenced to hell?” (Matt. 23:23) This is the same Jesus, who in anger, turned over the tables in the temple where thieves were operating. He chased them out with a whip. Jesus even commands us to judge others. He says, “Do not judge by appearance but judge with a righteous judgment”. In Luke 17:3, Jesus commands us to rebuke those who trespass against us and to forgive them if they repent. Of course, Jesus did love sinners; however, one wonders how Jesus identified these people as sinful without first making a judgment about them? Jesus’ love of sinful people did not mean accepting them and their behavior – the kind of love often confused with Jesus’ love – but it meant having the courage and commitment to understand them and their problems while helping them get rid of them (and doing so with patience). Accepting their behavior as a legitimate form of human expression is not something Jesus ever did or even commanded his disciples do. I dare you find the passage that supports this Liberal perversion of “love” you all claim Jesus was promoting.
I am sorry Ms. Durbin elected to ignore what I believe are good points. Instead of engaging in an exchange of intellectual opinions, she decided to victimize herself by suggesting I ‘assaulted’ her. She implies that I was disrespectful but misses how truly disrespectful she is behaving in the intellectual blogosphere. She says what I have written is not “worth remembering” although she frequents my blog everyday to post a link to hers and has said in a comment on my blog that my posts have made her “think…a lot”. I’m glad they have. Hopefully this one will do just as much.